Why can’t we all just get along? I have friends who love and others who hate the Fifty Shades phenomenon. I just finished the last one at midnight last night. I loved them. All three of them.
Does that make me less feminist, less academic or stupid? I don’t think so. And if it does, then so be it. To each their own. That’s the great thing about this country, you can choose what you do and do not want to read and be a part of. No one is inflicting books on you. Buy them or don’t. Read them or not.
It’s a free country. It’s a free society.
Is E L James’ writing on par with Flannery O’Connor? Tough question. They fulfill different roles in our culture. Each pursues questions of morality and ethics in a different way. With a different style. I can tell you one thing, I only just made it through A Good Man Is Hard to Find and Other Stories. They were violent and disturbing. I did not stay up until midnight turning the pages. I read them grudgingly and then no more.
The Fifty Shades books were full of constant sex and occasional plot. The writing was thin and easy to read. Personally, I don’t like getting bogged down in descriptions and details. I prefer to get on with the story. I don’t need or want the hyperbole. Again, to each their own. That’s why it’s so wonderful that we have so many writers out there working to keep us entertained.
Speaking of entertaining, I’ve been married to the same man for twenty-two years. We are an adventurous couple. There was nothing much new between those pages yet it was still intriguing. If nothing else, it reminded me of those heady first weeks and years of being together when everything was new and exciting.
Was Anastasia a victim of Christian? I think not. She had free will, and she exercised it. She was swept up in the storm of a powerful and seductive man. She was in love and consumed by a scorching romance. She also managed to accomplish what every woman with a bad boy hopes to: she changed him. Fundamentally so. She made him better.
In the relationship between Christan and Anastasia, SHE had all of the power. Not him.
As for the questions of her self-doubt. She had the same internal conversations we have all had at one time or another. Am I good enough? Am I doing the right thing? Whether you admit it or not, chances are your inner goddess has harangued you with the same doubts and self-talk. If you haven’t experienced angst over a relationship at some point, then you haven’t been IN a relationship.
Ultimately, the time of Fifty Shades will come and go. Where is the harm in taking our literary pleasures where we may? If the Fifty Shades trilogy isn’t your soul mate, keep looking.
Your prince will come even though a good man is hard to find.